She is My Sister
December 13, 2009
I want to know everything about her.
We only just connected over Facebook, after all these years. The last time I saw her, I held her on my lap. I was about 19. She was no bigger than Thomas is now, maybe 4 or 5 years old. She had the brightest brown eyes and the biggest little-kid smile. I couldn’t help but love her.
She is my sister.
I didn’t grow up with her. In fact, I didn’t meet her until I was about 16. She was a bouncing baby girl, full of sweetness and lovely little coos.
We share a not-father. Kaylee’s mom is a beautiful soul that I always adored as a teenager. She hasn’t changed from what I know. When I first met her, she sat me down and gave me two of her prized possessions as sort of a welcoming into her life. Her life with my father. She is a gentle woman, though she has this inner strength that became more apparent after I met her. She is from Trinidad, has a soft voice but a loud laugh. Her cooking is indescribable, yet I can still taste her spicy chicken if I shut my eyes.
History repeated itself in that my father left Kaylee and her Mom when Kay was little. He took off, hid well and avoided work to avoid paying support and ended up being a not-father to her too.
Neither one of us have any sort of feelings for our Dad. It’s sad more than anything. It makes me sad that he doesn’t know us, doesn’t know my kids, won’t ever be a part of our lives because he chose not to be.
Kaylee is an amazing young woman.
I wish I could tell you more, but I’m still learning about her.
She is my sister.
December 13th, 2009 at 4:41 pm
I am so in love with this entry.
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December 13th, 2009 at 4:45 pm
Awesome. <3
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December 13th, 2009 at 6:08 pm
*shivers*
She’s your sister. That is awesome.
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December 13th, 2009 at 6:25 pm
Oh wow. How exciting!
(Did you re-instate your facebook acct?)
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December 13th, 2009 at 6:55 pm
This is one of the few ‘lost and found’ Facebook stories that is truly heartwarming. I hope you both have a wonderful time reconnecting and building not only a friendship, but a sisterhood.
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:04 pm
Wow. Love this post. Glad you found her. Hope you both enjoy getting to know each other better.
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:05 pm
This is a sweet post. My little brother has a not-father. Very, very sad.
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
An amazing story…a fantastic tribute. It sounds like the beginning seeds of a memoir. Thanks for sharing.
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:09 pm
The whole absent Dad thing must be contagious. I know how you feel… She is lucky to have found you again. Any you her… Make it count.
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:11 pm
I can’t wait to hear more. What a great thing!
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:11 pm
Aw yay! I’m glad that you are reconnecting with your seester! I hate social networking sites like Facebook except for when it has a happy ending!
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:11 pm
How exciting for you! I reunited with my little sister a few years ago via the internet. I was the oldest and given up for adoption and they went on to have three other children they raised themselves. Let’s just say I got the better end of that deal. Having a sister is so great though, enjoy each other.
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:22 pm
I love this post. How awesome for the both of you!
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:24 pm
This is a divine post! How exciting!!
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:32 pm
Isn’t it amazing how blood draws us together?
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December 13th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
Aaawwww! Love that! I have an IRL friend that found her sister on Facebook, too. Such joy!
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December 13th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Oh wow. How very powerful. So glad you were able to reconnect.
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December 13th, 2009 at 9:21 pm
That was inspiring. Enjoy your “new” sis.
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December 14th, 2009 at 3:46 am
My dad stayed…though I kind of wish he hadn’t.
I’m so glad your dad did something right…he had you and he had Kaylee.
Love each other.
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December 14th, 2009 at 7:42 am
Wow that’s fantastic. I didn’t meet my half-sister until I was 13 (she’s 10 yrs older) and we lost touch and kept in touch on and off for over a decade but are now firmly in touch all the time and it is magical. Best of luck to you!
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December 14th, 2009 at 7:55 am
Man, we’ve got to gather all the family we can because a lot of us have duds. I’m so happy you are reconnecting with your sister!
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December 14th, 2009 at 10:53 am
My mom has a not-father, too. My dad’s father, my Popi, more than makes up for his suckiness.
I’m glad you were able to reconnect with her. There are too many lost siblings in this world, and I truly believe that our siblings are our best friends. I wish you both the best of luck.
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December 14th, 2009 at 11:11 am
I’m so glad you found her <3
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December 14th, 2009 at 11:36 am
I love this post. I’m so glad you are getting to know her again.
I found out about a brother a few years ago. Don’t know that I can find him, but every time I hear a story like this, I think I should at least try.
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December 14th, 2009 at 11:53 am
That’s great that you’re able to re-connect again. A new beginning is always a great thing, especially with family.
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December 14th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
this email gave me chills. i also have a not dad. oh how i am looking forward to more posts about your sister!
p.s. you look EXACTLY the same as you did back when you were in your teens.
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December 14th, 2009 at 5:00 pm
Gosh this is so exciting!! I am so excited for you both – enjoy the learning about each other!
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December 15th, 2009 at 4:04 am
Amazing thing these internetz.
Looking forward to hearing more as you get to know each other better.
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December 15th, 2009 at 10:36 am
WOW. just. Wow. The more I know, the more I love about you. XO
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December 15th, 2009 at 2:20 pm
I’m glad that you’re learning about her now. Siblings are so important.
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December 18th, 2009 at 2:26 pm
I’m so happy for you to be able to re-connect with her. I have an older half sister that I didn’t find out about until later on in life. We reconnected a few years back and then when my Dad passed away I really saw what a greedy, awful person she can be. I haven’t talked to her since. Sad.
That said, I do have two other very amazing sisters that I love to pieces.
Sibling can be wonderful. I’m happy for you!
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December 21st, 2009 at 5:00 pm
Oh Karen, that is so lovely. Having her in your life is a blessing, I am so happy for you. Best wishes.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 9:21 am
You know, I *did* read this a while back and then I didn’t comment. Maybe, for the obvious reasons, I was still dealing with my own reuniting with my daughter. But reading now, a while later, I have to say that I can fully see where it comes from and there’s no pain in reading it. Only happiness.
Will you tell us more?
xoxo
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